NANDITA VENKATRAMAN
One conversation that seems to surface repeatedly these days is the impact social media has on our mental well-being. Whether among friends, families or colleagues, many acknowledge that while social media connects us with the world, it also quietly influences how we see ourselves. Often without realising it, our time online becomes an endless cycle of comparison. We measure our lives against carefully curated snapshots of others, and that comparison can gradually erode self-esteem and, ultimately, self-worth.
Yet disconnecting completely isn’t a practical solution for most of us. Like it or not, social media has become an integral part of modern life. It broadens our exposure, keeps us informed about emerging trends and, in many ways, has overtaken traditional sources of information and news.
The real question, then, is not whether we should use social media—but how we can use it without allowing it to use us.
Drawing from my observations, experiences and understanding of human behaviour, two simple perspectives have helped me navigate this digital landscape with greater balance.
- The digital world need not be a battlefield for self-worth when viewed through the lens of awareness and perspective
- Artist and human behaviour enthusiast Nandita Venkatraman explains why online posts reveal actions—not necessarily emotions—and how that distinction changes everything
- A simple mindset exercise can transform endless comparison into personal growth, confidence and emotional resilience
Separate the Action from the Emotion
One of the most powerful reminders we can give ourselves is that what people post on social media reflects what they are doing—not necessarily what they are feeling.
A smiling photograph, a luxurious vacation, a professional milestone or a celebration captures an activity in a particular moment. It does not automatically reveal the emotional reality behind it.
The action being displayed and the emotional state of the individual are often two entirely different things.
When we consciously separate these two realities, we stop assigning imagined happiness or perfection to every image we see. We begin consuming social media for what it is—a glimpse into someone’s life rather than the complete story of their existence.
That shift alone can prevent us from becoming emotionally consumed by what appears on our screens.
Look Within Instead of Looking Up
Whenever a post triggers comparison, pause and ask yourself a different question.
Instead of focusing on what someone else is doing, identify the deeper quality that attracts your attention.
Imagine you see someone travelling to a destination you’ve always wanted to visit. Your immediate reaction might be, “I haven’t travelled anywhere exciting in so long.”
But is travel really what you are longing for?
Or is it the experience of trying something new?
The real essence may simply be the joy of exploring something unfamiliar.
Now ask yourself: Where can I experience that feeling in my own life?
Perhaps what you truly enjoy is reading. Have you picked up a genre you’ve never explored before?
Maybe you love cooking. Have you experimented with a new cuisine?
Perhaps writing inspires you. Have you tried a different style or started a journal?
Or maybe your passion lies in music, art, fashion, sports, spending time with children or meaningful conversations.
Every area of life offers opportunities to experience novelty, growth and excitement.
Once you recognise that, comparison quietly gives way to curiosity, and inadequacy transforms into inspiration.
Making Social Media Work for You
This simple mental exercise can be repeated every time an online post stirs feelings of comparison.
Instead of asking, “Why isn’t my life like theirs?” ask, “How can I express the same spirit of growth in my own unique way?”
The answer is almost always closer than we imagine.
Over time, this practice strengthens self-esteem because your focus shifts from external validation to personal evolution.
And when that happens, social media ceases to be a source of insecurity.
Instead, it becomes what it was always meant to be—a tool.
One that informs, inspires and connects, without defining your worth.
Perhaps then, social media will no longer feel like a necessary enemy, but an optional friend.
(The Chennai-based author, Nandita Venkatraman, is a Founder of Art N Chill Studio, an artist and human behaviour enthusiast. nandyvenkat96@gmail.com)
Readers’ Invitation
“Navjeevan Express warmly welcomes original articles from our readers, providing a vibrant platform to showcase their creativity, ideas and unique perspectives in the ever-evolving digital world. We look forward to amplifying voices that inspire, inform and engage.”
— R ARIVANANTHAM, Executive Editor, Navjeevan Express
This version is warmer, more professional and encourages reader participation while reinforcing Navjeevan Express as a platform for creative expression.
